Bad Dating Advice
I recently stumbled across this article called "Dating Advice for Women from Men." Some of it was the standard, run-of-the-mill dating advice, but three guys in particular stood out to me for their usual (read: ridiculous) advice for women.
1. "The food you choose on dates says volumes about your character. Dainty foods (read: salads) seem to have low correlation to fun and enjoyment. First few dates, make the food good, simple, and completely forgettable so you can focus on each other."
It's not enough to worry about your hair, makeup, and outfit on a date, now you also have to worry about your choice of entrée. I like salads, so I guess that means I'm boring and no fun. I also really enjoy experimenting with cuisine and I'll confess that I like my meal to be memorable. Clearly, I'm not just boring, I'm also waaay too busy stuffing my face with ceviche and tartare to focus on my date at all!
2. "All she needs to do to maintain my interest is... be awesome. [...] Go out and do things I'd want to do, then invite me."
Ok, BE AWESOME. No problem! I mean, what more can you really ask for in a girl? Simple AWESOMENESS is clearly all you need to make a relationship last. But don't forget to make a point of mimicking your boyfriend's social life so he knows how truly AWESOME you really are! I'm all for exploring each other's interests and discovering new things, but you'll never see me buying Maple Leafs Hockey Tickets just so I have an excuse to ask a guy out and prove how AWESOME I am.
3. "Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there. I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react. If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner. If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go."
I definitely don't expect a fancy restaurant on a date. In fact, I'd much prefer burgers at a bar, but the idea that a guy would chose a particular type of date just to test my reaction is insane to me. Dating is hard enough without the whole evening turning into some kind of test to prove that you're AWESOME, un-boring, and have figured out exactly what foods are more interesting than a salad, but not so interesting that your date feels jealous of your steak tartare.
I think dating should be fun. One of the easiest ways to do that is to try and take some of the pressure off, but these guys are doing exactly the opposite by piling on weird tests and unrealistic expectations! If you aren't sure where the date is going, you should at least be able to order whatever you want for dinner without worrying about sending subliminal salad signals!
I think the most important thing when starting any new relationship, whether it's with friends or a guy, is to be yourself. Chances are you'll probably end up being AWESOME anyway.