If you're new around here, you might not know that I work in a restaurant on weekends. Restaurants are a great place to do some people watching, and a few weeks ago I witnessed a few things that gave me food for thought.
For some reason, the restaurant where I work is a really popular spot for blind dates. A matchmaking service in my city sends a lot of their clients to us for their very first dates. Since this is a matchmaking service and not an online dating site, the two people have never met, emailed, or exchanged photos. In fact, they don't even get each other's contact info from the dating service.
A couple weeks ago we had two blind dates booked on the same day. For the first, the gentleman showed up 15 minutes early (always a good sign) and ordered a drink while he waited. Fifteen minutes went by then another fifteen... and then another fifteen minutes passed. After he'd been waiting for a whole hour and his date was forty-five minutes late he came back to ask me if she'd shown up. I hated to tell him no. He waited another fifteen minutes before giving up. In total, this man waited an hour and fifteen minutes for a woman who never showed.
Not long after, I got a call from the man who was on his way for the second blind date we had scheduled. He asked me to tell his date that he was running 10 minutes late, but was on his way. She arrived, ordered a drink, and I gave her the message. About seventeen minutes later, he rushed in the door slightly later than he'd said he would be. I turned around to take him to his table but there was nothing there except an empty glass of wine and a bill. In total, this woman waited seventeen minutes for a man she knew was on his way, before calling it quits.
This got me thinking. How long would I have waited?
I don't think I would wait a whole hour for someone who didn't even bother to try and get in touch with me by calling the restaurant. But I also think I would have waited longer than seventeen minutes for someone who I knew was running behind.
Blind dates are so emotionally tricky because neither party knows what they're getting into. No one wants to suffer being stood up, but I also believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt.
I'm torn between not wanting to miss out by giving up on someone too soon, and also not wanting to let people take advantage of my time.
So what do you think? How long would you wait for a blind date?